tanya talks...

I was browsing through some pictures on snapfish today of a friend when I came across a bunch of younger 20-something girls and was thoroughly grossed out by the raunchiness…

 

One of the things I’ve learned with age is the importance of self decency.  I continue to get more thoroughly grossed out as I see more girls using their sexuality to gain the attention from people around them.  It didn’t used to bother me so much before when I’d see this previously, but as I get older, I want to stop these girls, hand them some clothing and tell them they are so much better than that.  Has my mind narrowed and my view become too judgmental though?  After all, what do I care?  It really doesn’t affect my life to be honest, I do realize this, but in a society and culture where sex sells, a message which is being bellowed loud and clear to the younger generations out there, I find it so sad.  And in the name of what?  Attention?  Acceptance?

 

I know for some it’s simply self expression.  It’s making a point, perhaps it’s to show your beautiful curves you’ve worked so very hard at obtaining and it's very impressive.  For some, it’s liberating, it’s doing what you want not caring what others think.  And for some it’s rebelling – feeling oppressed in the past, perhaps the nerdy girl who found her beautiful self is now coming out to show it more than ever.  We see it and agree - you look amazing!  See, I have no problems with any of this.  But for crying out loud have some class while doing so.  In my eyes there’s nothing sexier than a curvy classy woman who keeps things in proper place the same way there’s nothing hotter and more attractive than a loyal dedicated man.  But if that man was walking down the street with out his shirt on, I'd think he was an idiot and get grossed out by him as well.  Ladies, it's the same thing.  It’s all how you carry yourself and not how low cut or short any skirt might be.. because here’s the thing…

 

You do look good.  In fact you’re smoking.  You’re rockin’ and no one can deny that.  You’re hotter than hot can be and anyone with even one eye can see this.  But you’re also very lovely.  You're beautiful, not just some hot chick so understand the difference.  You’re a woman – a very feminine precious being who should love yourself and understand you are so much more than your bursting cleavage any day.  And I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with revealing clothing but wear it with class.  Carry it off appropriately.  Don’t let it define you and what you think about yourself because of how much someone might stare.  Didn’t I tell you, you’re already smokin’.  This is all you need to know J

 

I find it terribly sad when I see these cases of girls acting hookerish because they often times don’t understand just how awesome they are… even in a turtle neck.  They are way hotter on the inside than any micro-mini skirt could do for them.

 

And for mothers and fathers out there, I have two pieces of advice:  give your daughters LOTS of hugs and kisses.  Let them know they are very well loved.  It will seriously build great self confidence for years to come.  And secondly, suggest they get involved with sports.  I really believe in this.  Takes the focus off of materialistic, social norms girls often face at some point.  Sports works, I really believe this… parental advice.. coming from me.  Yep, I'm laughing too!

Ever meet someone who talks in exclamations!  That’s always fun!  Really, it is!  Sometimes sentences should end with periods!  But sometimes they just don’t!  It’s OK though!  Really!  Today I went to work!  Last night I went to sleep!  See how much more exciting these sentences are?!!!!  Oh, I bet I could write a whole blog on this.. I’ll spare you all.

 

I saw Wanted as well as Hancock this last weekend.  LOVED Wanted.  I thought it was very entertaining.  Hancock passed the snoozer test but definitely a rental. 

 

Weddings, omg.  My new official homepage is the crate & barrel wedding registry site.  I kid you not.  I’ve spent so much time on this site, I’ve had no time to blog! (exclamation point).  So last weekend I attended a good friend’s wedding.  I’ve known him for ages and it was awesome to see this guy get married.  There was a circle of friends during our college days where we coined ourselves as the “Westside Riders”… I don’t know how this name came about actually but it was the name.  Anyway, the whole crew was at the wedding and it was great to see everyone after such a long time.  The ironic part of this whole thing is that with all the Riders in the circle, and random guess I’m gonna say there are maybe ~15+ people, Rishi is like probably the 3rd of us to get married!  Apparently Riders take their time with this whole marriage business.  But the wedding was phenomenal.  It was excellent!!  And I got to wear the most beautiful Saree which I borrowed from a friend.  Honestly, with how intricate they are, I’d be wearing one of those puppies every day because you feel so pretty in them.  Seriously.  Like a princess!

 

Kim is here.  This week is full of more wedding festivities for her.  Wednesday – end of day Saturday I’ll be doing nonstop Wedding things with and for her.  Last night a few of us went to capitol hill for dinner to show her husband around town.  It was fun!  Wish they lived here.  Always wish they lived here. 

 

4th of July was nice!  I hung out with Meladie and Sanaz and we bbq’d and watched the fireworks.  I hadn’t seen friends in some time sorta consumed with a lot going on right now, and it was really nice to see my girlies.

 

The rest of the month, there seems to be action packed weekends full of fun stuff but it’s good to stay busy during the summer.  And I think I'm getting a tan too!  YAY!  But I’m having quite a bit of fun despite the chaos of all the happenings.  It's been great! 

 

And I have a new rule.  Laptop stays in car trunk on weekends.  Of course don’t tell the burglars that but that is a new rule.  These days my phone too – but that’s nothing new.  I notice when I do this, I can be really productive and get a lot of stuff done which I need to!

 

Yes yes!

 

Alright, happy summertime, everyone! The sunshine is here and I'm loving it!

Tanya

 

 

My movie reviews this past month:

 

Sex & The City - what do you think?  I had to love this out of principle.  But really did love it.  I can't wait to buy the dvd and complete my collection.  As good as expected and the writing was ON POINT.

 

Iron Man - loved it... loved it...LOOOVED IT.  Wouldn't mind seeing it again.  The concept is unique and was completely entertained throughout.  Robert Downey Jr. definitely making a come back.

 

Incredible Hulk - have not seen the first one but loved this one! I loved this closely behind Iron Man but didn't like the hanging ending!  I really wanted the movie to go on longer and conclude.  Looking forward to the sequel.

 

Get Smart - um okay.  Not one I'd recommend for the theatre.. at most a dvd.  Not impressed.

 

Wall E - I slept through the second half.  It's okay.  Cute idea and concept but didn't find it great by any means.  Would recommend for cable tv probably.

 

Next on my list? But of course Wanted for no other reason than Angelina's presence for a good couple hours.